The illusion

                             

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "A new series.": 

Hi the quirky book worm, Your idea is quite inspiring. So i am taking a chance to tell my side of story. I used to be the topper and centre of my gang. But during second yr of my graduation , i lost my interest in studies and totally lost myself in the illusion.

   Then my family and some close people helped me to overcome that and to lead a normal life. But my results were a disaster that year. So everyone in my friends gang started treating me inferior to them, like an useless crap. It continued for the rest of my college life .

   At first I had a hard time dealing with that. But, by the end of my graduation i'm back to my previous self personally,mentally and study wise also.

    Now they are like "woah! You really worked hard i think" . And they started to treat me as an equal.

   That's the moment i realised , everyone in the world is like that . They only care about the things which appear externally. No one bothers about the things which you are struggling to deal with. And the way we deal with such people determines who we are really! 

Thank you anon, for coming out and sharing your story. Its really amazing and inspiring how you got your life under control. Sometimes loosing everything we  are proud of, makes us a take a closer look at ourselves. And we emerge stronger. Getting defeated is a choice. We can always choose not to. Even when the entire world tries to defeat us. "Just keep swimming" like Dory says. "Just keep swimming, like our anon did.

  As much as the failure hurts, people's reactions to our failure hurt much more. Well, I can speak on for hours and hours about that. But yes, those words you speak causally do hurt people. A lot more than you have thought. With our busy lives, we tend to stop realising that others do have their feelings and that something we say causally, or to sound cool in a group, or a mean joke you crack, do stick with the victim, they do affect their lives.
Read a quote somewhere " Every one is fighting a battle, you never knew "
While it may be hard to reach out to everyone, we can start by being a bit more kind to others.